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Some other ideas for you...
my husband and I going to a swingers club?
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It depends on your relationship with your husband. If this is something you along with him truly want and can separate the sex from becoming emotional or remove the jealousy aspect of it then good for you and have at it. For a lot of couples that’s extremely hard and even when they think they can the swinging they thought was fun is now a major issue in their marriage. “Did he like it better than me, does he think about her, and etc”.
I’m not here to judge you, and I can honestly say that my husband and I have done some crazy things throughout our relationship, but when we took those vows it really meant our relationship was between us and would remain that way. I think this swinger lifestyle and 3sum type action is suited more for dating and fun. Marriage is sacred and is something held between two people-but hey that’s just my 2cents.
Anyway, really think this through and be sure you are 100% ready for what may come with it.
Cheers!
You need to start saving up for your divorce attorney. Marriage is a commitment before God between two people. A man and a woman vowing to forsake all others. You two are about to break those vows. Once you go down that slippery slope there is no coming back. Divorce will soon follow.
Yeah, it happens. Good luck!
YES and so does DIVORCE
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Het hurt a good marriage, but it will destroy anything less. You have to be turned on by the idea of others wanting you and your partner, and the idea that your partner will get turned on by others. Make your rules, and stick to them no matter what. Never change your rules in the heat of the moment during a party. You can always discuss things after you get home, and amend your rules for the next event. What kinds of rules? Play as a couple or separately, sexual likes and taboos, etc. Your first time there, take time to meet others, talk, laugh, get to know them, and let them get to know you van het The first thing you can expect, are a lot of answers in here from blithering morons who have never experienced the swing lifestyle, and have no idea what they’re talking about. There are different levels of swinging, most commonly known as: Soft Swing: Watching and being watched, maybe a small amount of touching. Moderate: Playing with others, but no intercourse with others. Touching, oral, etc. Full Swing: Playing well with others in all ways comfortable. Don’t expect to go to a club, and find single females to fulfill your fantasies right away. There may be some, but most of the women there are part of a couple, and want their husbands to join in as well. Most swingers like to get to know others a little first, which is why parties and clubs have areas for meeting and greeting. These areas are usually no sex allowed. Manners count for everything. No means no, safe sex always, and don’t drink too much. Your relationship needs to be rock solid, with communication and honesty the foundation. Swinging can niet.
Grommit gave a very good, comprehensive answer. I have also had a van het de partij more NORMAL than you expect. Sure, there is a sexual, sensual vibe in the air. There are dark corners, private rooms, sexy people, perhaps you will see some sexual behaviour – but most of all – you will be struck at how mundane it seems on the surface. Swingers are normal people. Sex is an important part of their life, but even on an evening out to a swingers’ club – there is only so much time for actual sex – and a van het partij of swinging experiences, and agree with most of what she said. I would say that you should expect to be very aroused and hot as a couple. You should also expect that the environment will be a van het de partij more time of sitting around, dancing, chatting, watching others – getting aroused – teasing and flirting with your partner. You should really spend time reassuring each other that you are having a nice time if you are – and speaking up if you feel uncomfortable. But I would expect that you will both be turned on, excited, and have a nice time. Don’t worry if you don’t want to play with others on the first night – that is pretty common, and people won’t think you are weird. If you do some light touching initially – you may like that too. But as Grommit said – make rules ahead of time – and don’t go beyond those that night – even if you both feel like it. Don’t let the moment make you do more than you are comfortable with. If you like it – and want more – you can go back again and have something to look forward to. I have also described a swingers club as being like a Jr. High dance. Often couples sit around separately, looking at others, too shy to talk or approach others – fear of rejection like the fear of a 7th grad boy afraid of asking a girl to dance. But if you can get beyond that – don’t have any expectations – don’t take it too personally if people don’t play with you – you can have a great experience. There are many reasons for not wanting to play with someone – they have already played, they have friends they are meeting, one of the two is uncomfortable with one of the other couple. THis is perhaps the most difficult part of swinging – whereas with a single person trying to meet a single person, where you have to find one person who wants you – in swinging, you both need to find a couple with whom you are both comfortable and find attractive – and that couple has to both be comfortable with you and find you guys attractive. The math is much more against you. But, swingers are pretty open, so don’t worry too much. Just relax, enjoy, make sure that each of you is pleased and is having a nice time. Spending a de partij of time looking and enjoying each others’ company can help reduce the possibility of jealousy creeping in. The rest is gravy. Grommit is right about finding single women – who are referred to as unicorns among some swingers – because they are so rare. However, there are plenty of couples with women – and I am sure that one or more of them might be willing to touch you while you and your husband have sex. Don’t be afraid to strike up a conversation with other couples – let them know that you are new – let them know that you are just there checking it out, and what your limits are. People are there to please themselves – and the please others. They will want you to feel comfortable and help build your confidence and comfort there. Good luck.